![]() “I wasn’t being truthful about my marriage” “I fumble over my words and get in my head about what to respond with” “I didn’t feel that they heard me even though I knew what I was talking about” “I felt dismissed at the dinner table with my family” “I was told to be quiet and not speak unless i had something good to say all the time as a child” “I wanted to speak up but others jumped in” “I was made fun of for my speaking/singing voice” “I feel fearful when sharing my thoughts to a group” These are just a sampling of statements women (and some men) have made to me over the years when we are assessing what has changed about their voice that is hindering them and their communication. I often say “For some people, when under prolonged stress, conscious or unconscious, the result is a stomach ulcer, for others, it’s a voice change” There are differences in the voice and laryngeal function when the Vagus is hopped up in Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) overdrive vs. when in Parasympathetic Nervous System (PNS) mode! The key trigger: Stress Stress (physiological, emotional, inter-personal etc) can trigger a voice change. Often it is from muscular tension, decreased breath support (more holding/shallow breathing when in fight-flight-fear-fawn-faint mode) or psychological factors that can make voicing and speaking more effortful, strained and fatigued. It is difficult to predict who will experience stress-related changes to their voice. Thus awareness, vocal play, and proactive wellness is key! "Why do only certain persons react to environmental stress and inter-personal conflict by developing an abnormal voice? Why is it that others who have emotional reactions to stress and conflict never have voice problems? Why is it that still others express their personal problems through some other organ systems other than the larynx?" --Arnold Aronson, PhD, Speech Pathologist, Preeminent Speech and Voice Researcher, 1990 Stress is a chronic pervasive problem in the world, and is the underlying cause of many conditions. The voice is no exception as it is also susceptible to stress. Feeling choked up when speaking to a crowd? Tightness in your throat when nervous? Speech sounds stopping or crackling when you’re trying to have a hard conversation? Shortness of breath when speaking on stage? When stress and emotional dysregulation or repression impacts the voice, it's not an isolated incident. It is one of the reasons I have approached my work holistically for so many years and continue to advocate that if you are desiring to enhance your voice, to first fully ensure the folks you are considering hiring are vetted, as there is still a lot of misinformation, judgment, and harmful practices in the voice/speaking coaching world. Emotions and voice are inextricably intertwined. Early in my clinical career, I didn’t really recognize the specifics of what I was doing when crafting a session with someone, it just made sense to me to incorporate emotional awareness into the person’s care, when applicable. In the voice science literature, the current term used to characterize voice changes that show no physical abnormalities (i.e. when assessed with a scope to ensure the structures of the larynx and vocal folds are intact; in this post, I spoke about the physical toll a voice experiences when someone is a Vocal Athlete), yet an obvious mechanical and functional interruption is known as “laryngo-responder”: A person who is pre-disposed, either by physical make up or personality to express emotional distress through either function or sensation of the larynx or voice (Aronson & Bless,2009). For laryngoresponders: Muscle activation in the larynx and areas surrounding the larynx demonstrate much higher activation when exposed to stress as compared to non- Laryngosponders. In other words: The muscles within and around your larynx and neck tighten & hold tension. Areas of "least stability” in the body can be weakened and then discomfort arises when stress becomes unbearable that the expression of that stress occurs in the vulnerable area. In other words, in the voice, if there are changes that occur, without any structural abnormality or issue, it is often the result of a 'tipping point' -- Chronic stressors weakening the system and then something minor, like a cold, or increased anger, or nervousness, comes along and voice disruption occurs. This is often why people lament “Why now? I’ve been talking for X number of years and I should know what to do!” When this doesn’t resolve within a couple weeks on its own…it’s time to prioritize your well-being and voice health. Your voice is speaking to you. Your body’s signals matter. There’s A LOT to say about stress, emotions, the vagus nerve and voice, yet this is the 101 lesson for today. Clients who hire me bring their open-mindedness and willingness to get uncomfortable with what they need to release from within, proactively re-stabilize their voice, regain assertiveness, and re-ignite a deeper connection to their body wisdom. This brings about ease in communication, improved leadership, success on stages, and an overall more vibrant way of being. I’m honored to hold a judgment-free zone and witness your insights. Bringing all of you and the real you is what accelerates your speaking success!
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Kathleen Cameron and I were recently discussing the improvements she has made in her voice goals. She is not pushing or forcing her voice near as often, and is noticing it flows with more ease while still being herself!
Previously, she felt she had been trying to say/be what she thought people needed to hear from her, but that wasn’t sustainable. She stated “Now I just speak!” However, her speaking requirements while running an 8-figure company are still intense! She has media appearances, a team to lead, client calls to teach, events to host and 2 beautiful girls to care for…all increasing her voice dose (amount of voice use in a given day/week). She is a Vocal Athlete. A vocal athlete, who, just a few months ago, had a very unexpected hit to her voice’s power source: Emergency surgery to her lungs. Kathleen is one of the most successful personal development & manifestation mentors in the world, and she knows a thing or two about creating who she is becoming, her desired life and is in an incredible new season of health & vitality. While we have made some strategic adjustments to her schedule in addition to exercises she practices for longer term stamina and conditioning, she is still in process, and there are times where her voice can sound tired or raspy. It’s often for multi-factorial reasons. Yet…People have, unsolicited, been saying to her: “You’re not speaking your truth” or “it’s clear you have emotional blocks” when they hear the occasional tired or raspy sound. Naturally this is aggravating to her and completely presumptuous on their part. I adore learning about and believe in quantum energetics, moving stuck emotions, as well as our innate healing abilities AND this is not always what impacts a voice. When you are a vocal athlete and REQUIRE your voice at such an intensive level of talking, there is a physical COST to that! In a high performance voice like Kathleen’s, and many of my clients, this is where the physical, figurative, and intuitive all are explored. Kathleen is a master of self-development and has been taking steps to condition her physical instrument. I applaud her proactive approach to caring for her voice, something that the majority ignore, take for granted, or judge themselves or others harshly for how they sound. There is no place for shaming, gaslighting or pre-supposing what a person needs or is going through. Consider this: No one would shame a basketball player and say “oh you injured your ankle, it must be because you aren’t walking in integrity/you are probably repressing something." That injury is the physical toll of a high performance body. Let’s break it down another way: If I say “My name is Brienne. My pronouns are she/her/hers. I have a daughter. We take care of a puppy. The women I serve are incredible humans who are on their self-growth path and ready to learn about their voices in a new way to enhance their wellness, communication and way of Being” Those are facts. That is my truth. I am in full alignment with those statements. No emotional wobble exists. If I repeat that for 60 minutes, my voice would feel tired. Now, multiply that by 5 more hours (often how much my clients are speaking on intensive days) and I would be more fatigued, potentially even raspy. Now, compound that by having no knowledge of how the voice worked, no warm-ups, and no awareness of how to shift to a healthier production? That is a recipe for long-term injury. This is why preventative voice wellness matters! That raspy quality has nothing to do with what I said or my belief about it. It has to do with the physical load my voice sustained. Voice conditioning, just like an athlete physically conditions and optimizes the efficiency of their body to be at their best performance, takes practice, consistency, and is crucial for those whose livelihood depends on speaking day in and day out. As I guide my clients, emotions are addressed. The voice is a barometer to possible underlying, unearthed issues. AND, sometimes, it’s as simple as inefficient overuse. Period. Another analogy, because why not: A woodworker who is sanding her carvings by hand, has the repetitive stress/strain of moving the sandpaper along the wood grain, which results in an ache in her wrist. She doesn't regularly stretch or strengthen her wrist or arm, yet notices the intensity of the ache vary depending on the duration of the sanding motion. Will you say that the ache is due to repressed emotional issues or blockage? No, that would be ridiculous. The voice is a repetitive use instrument. It can withstand phenomenal stress-strain friction on a daily basis AND repetitive motion injuries ARE a risk-factor for vocal athletes! Before you assume what may be going on with someone and their voice changes, perhaps there needs to be closer, internal examination first. Pause, breathe, ASK if they need anything, and LISTEN. Don’t spill your assumptions out onto them without consent. As our conversation continued, I witnessed her ‘edgy voice’, as she called it, still emanate clearly and resonant EVEN while showing her strong emotion, which is an improvement from months ago when her voice previously pushed from her throat. Vocal athletes benefit from vocal conditioning, so their full range of emotion and essence is expressed in a healthy, sustainable way! * * * * * ****************** P.S. Vibrant Voice VIP Days are the perfect opportunity to jumpstart your voice journey for more reliability, expressiveness, stamina and truthful presence. Connect here or Email [email protected] if interested and I’ll send a helpful PDF with the details. You and your voice are worthy. Talk soon! I’m just going to say it!!
Voice coaches, singing teachers, and speaking coaches who don’t have any background or formal training in voice anatomy, function, accurate voice health, vocal injuries and rehabilitation (voice pathology) or specialized treatment are not qualified to be providing or promoting services that claim to heal, rehabilitate or mitigate voice changes. I believe we are powerful beyond our understanding and have innate energetic healing abilities. AND I believe in science, training and clinical experience, plus the crucial need for assessments that actually allow for proper visual screenings of voice quality, function and potential risk factors for injury. Prevention and proactive voice exploration to feel more confident with your voice and speaking is one thing. Voice injury, disorders and chronic symptoms that go unchecked is another. Today, I am talking about the latter. Especially because I continue to see far too many people cross the line and lower the standard. A website, of someone who teaches musical instruments and sound healing, indicates they will help voices improve from illness & stress, including voice loss. There is no indication of any certified voice experience or specialized training. This is just one of many instances of I have seen over the years, from vocal coaches, speaker-stage trainers, singing teachers to the random YouTuber who took 3 voice lessons and considers themselves an expert doling out (sometimes harmful) advice. And yet, they are providing services to people who have weak, scratchy or fatigued voices. This is unacceptable. I have encountered a few vocal coaches who are targeting certain populations of people with diagnosed voice disorders and yet, even when we have a 1:1 conversation about the questionable ethics & concerns, they dismiss it. Instead of referring a person to a certified Speech & Voice Pathologist, these voice coaches, singing teachers and musicians claim they can cure them. There could be a myriad of reasons why those symptoms exist and it is irresponsible to proceed without first understanding if an underlying structural or mechanical issue exists. There are still so many vocal myths and incorrect anecdotes that abound. The standard has to be higher! During my 13+ years in clinical voice specialization, person after person came in for evaluation saying things like:
These things made them worse, not better. When asked if they were ever advised to get the voice changes evaluated by an ENT/Laryngologist, Specialist Speech-Voice Pathologist or at minimum to tell their physician, the resounding reply was “No.” For months longer than was necessary, they struggled with their voice, which ultimately disrupted their communication, connection with others and in frequent cases, negatively impacted their livelihood. High-risk populations include: teachers/educators, nurses, coaches, public speakers, preachers, lawyers, realtors, customer service representatives, executives, podcasters, voice-over artists, etc. Many of these folks have underlying changes to their voice structure and vocal fold tissue that require a specialized plan of care. Most people don't realize the importance of this issue until it's too late. That's why I will continue to educate and shift the narrative. What would you do if you didn't have a voice? Proactively care for your voice, the way you do the rest of your body. Be your best advocate for higher quality and verified services.
OR if you have started to notice weakness, tension, hoarseness, change in pitch or volume, pain, etc., that has persisted longer than 2 weeks, I strongly encourage you to do your due diligence and properly review who you are considering working with before jumping in. It could save you months of little to no progress, If you or someone you know is struggling with voice changes, I am happy to chat and provide complimentary guidance via: *Voice Screenings (short and simple, I ask some questions about voice use, have you do a few vocalizing tasks and listen for certain characteristics) *Advocacy Prep: Review important questions you can ask providers or coaches (as you are your best advocate!), and ensure you have more clarity to make a fully informed decision. **If you desire a more in-depth, customized review of your voice, it's strengths and areas to focus on so that you harness your instrument to speak with ease and power, then consider a Voice Review: Explore Strengths of Your Voice to Elevate Your Communication, currently offered through the platform Vibly 🗣️Are you ready to level-up your vocal health? Grab your FREE copy of my Exclusive Guide To Optimizing Your Vocal Power & join the Empower Your Voice Community for insightful stories, voice tips, and more, right to your inbox This audio is me in real-time in May 2022 with acute (means 2-4 weeks versus chronic which is 4+ weeks) laryngitis. Laryngitis means edema of the larynx. More specifically, edema (swelling/inflammation) of the vocal folds. While surrounding structures and tissues can also be swollen and subsequently soothed, today will focus on the vocal folds. Recently, my beloved virtual assistant Elzeth (the wonderful human behind the scenes who helps much of this content reach all of you!) also had a bout of laryngitis, and she took herself through the triage tips. She shared a bit about her experience with me: “These tips really helped with my recent bout of laryngitis. I kept working through these great triage tips and my voice bounced back so much quicker than it usually does when I have a bout of laryngitis. The best takeaway from these tips for me is definitely took look after yourself. Self-care is super important. Take time to rest up, the world won't end without you Be kind to yourself, and work through these life-changing tips. Take care of yourself and the rest will follow. Brienne is truly such a beautiful, warm soul, an inspiration, and absolutely amazing at what she does. If it wasn't for her patience, guidance, and love for what she does, my voice would've taken much longer to heal. Thanks to her, my voice healed beautifully. If you are a vocal athlete who would like to step into your authentic and true self, prioritize vocal care and so much more, I highly recommend working with Brienne, she is truly a gem! " For those of you who played with your voice using the Humming to Heal exercise, you’ll appreciate that I am doing that exercise when my voice is clear and functioning well. That is so you could hear the extent of what’s possible. Bonus tip: Even when not experiencing acute voice difficulty, that humming exercise can be a simple and effective way to start and end your day! It is a way to gently warm up your voice, and, re-set it after lots of talking. Now, for this current audio example and exercise, it is meant to help you navigate during the difficult voice times with more deliberate awareness of where your voice could have moments of improvement. If you use it when your voice is feeling well, it can help you further hone the ‘sweet spots’ where your voice naturally resonates and feels vibrant and easy! Caveat: There is no ‘quick fix’ in life. Nor in voice. Wellness for our mind, body, and spirit means becoming aware of our desires, making choices, and deciding what serves us and what we need to release. Releasing the limiting belief of ‘quick fix’ means that you open up a new realm of expanding your wellness in ways that perhaps weren’t otherwise obvious to you. Voice is a conduit to the mind-body connection, and the more you learn about what your voice is capable of, the more you are able to adjust and lean into the infinite evolution, rather than in a finite box of ‘quick, one & done, never think of it again.’ I don’t know about you, but I love living a life of expansion that feels delightful, delicious, and worthwhile! Remember, grace and kindness to yourself as you play with these exercises! I couldn't commit. Two big projects are due this month. I was fired up about both of them. I planned, outlined and put segments into my schedule for completion. Yet, I continued bumping up against blocks of procrastination. This is a very well-worn pattern for me, and I’ve used various practices to release it, and try to release it again. And again. Yet, it shows up. I used to be extremely hard on myself, judging myself for being ‘lazy’ or not putting the work in until the last minute, knowing that with space and reflection, I could produce something even better. I kept questioning why I wasn’t committing to myself and my goals. Reminding myself that nothing is wrong with me. I’ve learned to be much more loving-kind to myself, deepening the intimacy with myself, with Divine Love, which has allowed me to hear and follow my intuition more. I have increased my trust in myself, that everything is working out for me. Words matter, and, the energy of the words is incredibly important. As I remained open to what I needed to learn about this old pattern, a newer practice began to flow through me. I observe the intuitive yes/no sensations I received to the words I was using, in both the limiting beliefs and in the new beliefs I desired to hold. Sometimes, this may be simple as saying and feeling into the opposite. For example, “I’m not worthy” becomes “I am worthy” But, when I tried that, going from “I’m not committed” to “I am committed”, it still felt dissonant, off, sticky, not me. My throat and abdomen contracted. That is my clear ‘no’ signal. So, I opted to call upon higher guidance, center myself, open to hear my intuitive voice for what words are a match. I wrote them each out as they came through one by one, and when needed, spoke them out loud: >>>‘Accountability’: got an intuitive ‘no’. Asked that to be released and a lion’s breath came through >>>‘Responsibility’: got an intuitive ‘no’ Asked that to be released and 3 exhales with purses lips came through >>>‘Commitment’: got a strong intuitive ‘no’; Asked that to be released and a sustained hum came through >>>‘Dedication’: got an intuitive ‘yes’, easier breath flow and asked to imprint it more, and humming glides with body movement and fuller breaths came through. I am dedicated to my craft. I am dedicated to myself. I am dedicated to my dreams. I am dedicated to those I serve. Dedication is precious. Dedication is a choice. Dedication is sacred and sacred is safe. I am dedicated to Divine Love. Dedication allows for an upward spiral of belief, possibility and healing. Following this practice, I succeeded in 3 days of forward momentum, with more ease, celebration and patience. I am a woman who is dedicated in this moment and stretching through the very visceral discomfort. Perhaps you will get curious about any patterns that go round and round for you, and revisit it from a new perspective. Observe which words are dissonant and those that are the most resonant for you. Allow yourself the choice, based on your Divine inner voice and your body's wisdom, so that you can go beyond saying meaningless or even disempowering words out of habit, and instead cultivate a deeper alignment and new core beliefs that are wholly you. Did you know?
Humming is one of the easiest and simplest ways to heal and re-set your voice 🗣️ Let’s try it together going up ⬆️ and down ⬇️ your range. (2 glides) Do 10 repetitions, 2-3 times per day. Be mindful to stay within a range that is achievable, and if you notice you have to force or push into your high and low range, don't! This isn't meant to max out vocal flexibility but rather, generate the adequate airflow and resonance needed to create an easy and smooth sound. Feel into your body: Notice any vibrations, maybe tickling or buzzing in the lips, teeth, tongue, roof of the mouth, or face, these are all signs that the energy ✨emanating up from your vocal folds is creating your efficient and best voice. It may feel like a tickle, open, relaxing and smooth and/or effortless. 💫 💫 💫 Research demonstrates that humming like this can help mobilize the tissue (helps reduce stiffness), making sure the vocal folds have an even better chance of healing after a surgery or vocal fold injury or laryngitis. If you find a middle pitch that is natural to your speaking range, that feels buzzy on your lips or face & sounds smoother, that is the initial spot to center your speaking voice around, so you can optimize your healing! 🗣️Are you ready to take your vocal health and empowerment seriously? Grab your FREE copy of my Exclusive Guide To Optimizing Your Vocal Power & join the Empower Your Voice Community for insightful stories, voice tips, and more, right to your inbox Have a friend whose voice would love to play with humming? We would be so appreciative if you shared! Laryngitis (this is my voice during a recent bout) doesn’t have to completely take you out. 👆🏻 Here’s some of my favorite ways to soothe the scratch!
🗣️ Delegate. Strategically look at your day and week: where can you reduce talking? Email/text instead of call? Cut out any talking over noise? 🤐 Rest. Yes, this is the time that rest will actually be beneficial to your voice. The more silence, the less friction on fragile swollen tissue. (If you don’t observe silence and let others know you’re on voice rest—It’d be like having a blister from your favorite pair of shoes yet continuing to wear them until the blister worsens…ouch!) 💨 Steam and humidify: steaming with boiling water or VocalMist, is very soothing. Ensure your environment isn’t too dry, as that will increase the likelihood of thicker mucus production, which may set coughing or throat clearing in motion, which is like having a blister on your hand and then clapping loudly over and over. 💦 Sip water, hot water with lemon & honey, or warm herbal teas (some folks love Throat Coat. No it won’t “cure” your laryngitis nor does the liquid even touch your vocal folds, yet the surrounding tissues of the throat can feel some relief). Especially if you have that raw, scratchy feeling as an associated symptom. *Please skip the Hot Toddy’s or shot of [your preferred liquor here]. That will only mask symptoms and too much will be irritating to the tissues. 🧣 Gentle self massage of the neck, especially on and around the larynx and using a heat wrap (warmed with water or in the microwave) around the neck can feel quite exquisite. The ache, swelling, and fatigue of the neck muscles can also take a toll around the larynx(voice box), so self-massage is a great start! What have you tried before? What has worked for you? Reply and share with me!💜 Access your complimentary copy of the 10 Tips for Optimizing Voice Power today! Updated Nov 2024: Check out the new Voice Emergency Kit! Voice loss? Laryngitis? Sore throat? Heal your voice faster with effective and comprehensive tools! Recently, a potential client and I had a conversation about their concern about ‘up-speak’. It had been pointed out to them by their partner, and was bothersome because they are preparing for a career shift and have interviews upcoming. They stated, “It’s important to get a handle on this because it’s not a good thing to do when interviewing, since they may think I don’t know what I’m talking about”
This is a very legitimate concern. Up-speak is when a statement is said as if it was a question. Instead of using a neutral or downward pitch inflection for a statement, such as "I love the sunshine. the speaker goes up in pitch at the end of the statement, which we perceive as akin to the upward inflection of a question, as if "I love the sunshine?" (listen to my examples below!) Some speakers do this without even realizing it, and it can disrupt communication intent as the listener may doubt what the speaker is saying, doubt their expertise, or not take them seriously. As you can imagine, in a job interview setting, conveying credibility is a key component. Up-speak can be resolved in a fairly short time. There are some speaker trainers and voice coaches who will do a cursory technique to help the person reduce the frequency of up-speak. This falls into the precarious ‘quick fix or band-aid’ approach territory and can remain very surface-level. Yet often, surface-level does not stamp out underlying factors, nor, elicit long-lasting change. Those of you who know me, (and those getting to know me!) will know that I am not here for band-aid approaches and I do not believe we need to be “fixed”, let alone expect an ingrained habitual way of speaking to disappear quickly. Staying curious and open-minded, the potential client and I discussed what may be contributing to this feature in their way of speaking. It was revealed while recently working as a customer service representative in a toxic job, fielding lots of frustrations from customers, they felt difficulty speaking up for themselves felt themselves holding back from what they really wanted to say and feared the response of the listener. I validated their experiences and asked them to consider what long-term consequence may occur if nothing changed: They said, “Self doubt would persist” Then, I asked them to consider what is a positive consequence of releasing the self-doubt by addressing the up-speak: They said “Well, if I was more conscious of the way I talk, there would be less questioning, and I would feel more authoritative, which is important to me” The reasons for up-speak can be varied and unique to each person. They may doubt themselves, they may have been criticized for what they say or how they are saying it, they may just be nervous and their voice shifts intonation up when they don’t mean for it. The way I approach this is from the sound of their voice, AND the underlying beliefs that may be lurking, and then ensure there is consistent practice in the speaking mode they desire. This is a wonderful example where a goal like reducing up-speak and enhancing speaking power can happen in a supportive, in-depth, laser-focused container together, and can make all the difference in the speaker’s self-assuredness, and their livelihood when they ace the interview and land that new job! * * * * * P.S. A Vibrant Voice VIP Day may be an awesome fit for you! It’s a 3 hour intensive, followed by two additional sessions within 30 days, with unlimited Voxer/DM support – why? Because habit-formation is awesome & encourages long-term success! Curious to learn more??? Email [email protected] and I’ll send along more details. Remember, You & your voice are worthy! Welcome!
If you're new to me, what a pleasure it is to have you here! If you know me and have been in my world for awhile, great to see you! I am honored to welcome into this new mode of communicating, and am eager to experience what unfolds in our dialogue. Yes, I said dialogue. Now you may be thinking, "this looks like a one-sided conversation to me." On the contrary, there is purpose-driven thoughtfulness and energetic intention to how I show up to these formats. Why? I have you in mind. Just as you desire to get to know me and my mission, I desire to learn more about you. Our connection starts now, and evolves in new ways and various adventures. And, as with any new relationship, the stories, values, wins, learns, ways to work together, celebrations and insights that fill each communication encounter, must begin with a declaration of how loving-kind boundaries look and feel, in this present moment. So, here you have it. Loving boundaries, transparency and designing the life I desire requires improved communication. Deeper understanding of who I am now, while honoring past versions, is important to me. Recognizing myself, my gifts, levels of energy and focus, and what is sustainable for me so that I can serve more, is part of the exploration. This declaration is from me, for me, and ever evolving. Does this feel like a scary stretch? Yep, sure does. I will love myself through it. Do I feel old urges to justify, over-explain, and make sure it comes across as ‘nice’, or to be liked? Yep. Yet, I will not give into those urges as they are not reflective of the higher divine loving being I know resides within. Going forward:
You know who has been able to experience that? Folks who showed up! When you bring your whole, messy, committed self, and I bring my whole, messy, dedicated self, I can guarantee incredible, inspiring and magical moments! I am no longer available for people who don't honor communication expectations. I am no longer available for folks not staying true to their word. I'm calling in clients who are ready to bring their whole selves, ready to invest in themselves, ready to show up and do the work, ready to be encouraged, to be held accountable, ready to be deeply supported through the ebbs and flows, ready to be curious and grow in new ways. I will hold compassionate space for where you are AND call you forward to the potential I already see in you, even if it gets uncomfortable. Especially then! So you can FEEL all the ways your belief in yourself can elevate who you are and what you are here to do! I am no longer available for people who go M.I.A.; I get to have people in my life who respect me, see me, appreciate me, and honor the work and themselves enough to value what we create. I am no longer available for people who are takers and energy-drainers; I get to protect my precious energy and create boundaries that feel amazing to me. Those who are ready to be with me in that way are always welcome. I am no longer available for friends who don't reciprocate or are one-sided. I am only available for conversation that light me up, nourish me and the other person. I am only available for clearer boundaries and expectations, and delicious dialogue to ensure respect & transparency, even if disagreement. I am only available for transparent, real talk. I get to interact with people who do not avoid, rather, who show up vulnerably, trusting they will be met with even more love and grace, while also activating their higher potential in doing so. I am no longer available for people who are "not now, later"; I get to have clients who are ready now and willing to do what is needed to show up for themselves. I get to compassionately release those who are not ready, and remind them that when they are, I am here. I continue to believe in them, and I desire for their entrance into our container to be empowered by a leap of faith (NOT to initiate from a pain point, fear, or uncertainty). They are willing and feel the stretch of the unknown of what's coming! I am only available to nurture those who truly align with the grander vision, and to magnetize potential clients who love the possibility of our journey together. I am no longer available for feast/famine months. I desire and am worthy of a consistent, sustainable business, mission and lifestyle! I am available for continued self-growth, expansion, to communicate even more clearly. There will be messy moments to be sure, and the words within our language may be insufficient at times. Yet it fuels and relieves me to know I am shedding and stretching...not to 'fix' any parts of me, rather, to BE fully in all parts of me. I am no longer available for being 'palatable' in my ways of showing up. I can show my feisty, intimate, sassy, silly, sensual and spontaneous sides AND still be incredible at connecting, nurturing and loving on myself and others. All weaved with the intentional thread of well-being, fortified by the belief in myself, sourced from the Divine Love of God who is in, and through and vibrating us all. This foundation is paramount to supporting and shining a light on YOU and your gifts, as I use my superpowers of calling you forward into your grandest ways of Being, so that we can thrive as the next levels of our best selves. My voice is worthy. You and your voice are worthy. Again, incredibly honored you are here, and now in true turn-taking style, share with me some of your aligned, non-negotiable boundaries that help you tap into your power! |
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